a friend got me thinking about what defines "friend".

to me, it's someone who:
-offers help where/when it is unexpected/not asked for
-doesn't mind listening to you mentioning some not-so-pleasant events that happened even after he or she has had a long day amd is pretty beat.
-judges you but does it in a good, constructive, tactful way (though i concede that sometimes as a friend we need to be harsh brutal and direct about things).
-having similar basic values that you can identify with.
-you know that you can share things with them almost as comfortably as you can go through those thoughts in your head with yourself.
-being there for you when you just need someone to be there with you.
-goes after you in concern time and again when you are feeling super down and don't feel like talking to anyone.

notice how i didn't add "being able to have lots of fun together"? well i think if two people can do the above, they can probably also have fun together so that's like a given. it would be weird if it isn't huh?

but that's just my view. and by the way if anyone is wondering, the above isn't some exhaustive list or some "pre-requisites to being jun xiang's friend" kind of thing. i go by my general gut, which of course corresponds at least somewhat to the list but frankly nothing's absolute.

spent most of my day today sleeping and have only revised 2 stats topics. sheesh this is not good.